Permission, boundaries, and self-worth.
I’ve never been very graceful about advocating for myself. It’s usually because I waited WAY too long to actually say something out loud to the appropriate person. As a consummate over-server I had this internal messaging that if only I was the best and took care of everything for everyone else, others would/should automatically notice what I’m doing, understand how I’m feeling, or what I need. When they didn’t seem to, I would run through the conversation about my boundaries