You don't have to know how to do it by yourself.
Reports from the field, June 2019.
When we think of the things we give ourselves permission to not know how to do sometimes the list looks like things like electrical work, tiling, or fixing our cars. We often get support for things that have to be done which we have no expertise or ability to do ourselves. And after the expert satisfactorily finishes the task, we don’t experience shame and judgement for not being able to do it ourselves.
When it comes to emotional work and taking action towards our dreams we don’t often think that we should have help. We believe that we should know how to do this. We should know how to do it all by ourselves no matter whether or not we’ve ever been taught how to action our dreams. We should know how to do it all by ourselves even though we have no clue how to excavate ourselves from life’s trauma. We believe we should know how to do it ourselves even though we may never have even seen it done. And when we believe we have to know how to do it ourselves and in reality don’t have a clue, we freeze up or stop trying. And that means we lose or delay our dreams.
I want you to know that just because you haven’t got all the answers doesn’t mean there aren’t answers. What you dream is possible. When you make the decision to allow yourself to search for help you begin to create the very thing you dream. It can be a fantastic first step. It’s ok not to know. It’s ok to have a big list of questions. It’s ok to feel foolish for not knowing. It's ok for it to take you a while to take the action, even if it's only a phone call to ask what it costs. You deserve support to learn how to do this.
In the Permission for Coaches and Mentors Course, really for anyone who is leading or teaching other people, I try to teach people to understand how to help give their clients permission to make the decisions to act on their dreams. For those of us reaching out for help as clients the course helps you go deeper in your own permission process and to understand what you might need and expect while you are in learning environments.
You can check it out here.
Lots of love, Susie